Single people at midlife have special challenges. But, it IS possible to create a fulfilling life partnership. For some, being single itself constitutes a midlife crisis of sorts. Even if you are the one who chose to leave the relationship, it can still be challenging. The good news about a crisis is that it forces us to do something new.
Success in partnerships at midlife demands new skills and greater self knowledge.
To attract and create a new partnership you must:
Get clear on what you want for yourself. If you haven't done it already, it is time to create the vision for your life. You could use vision boards or simply write out the script. What would an ideal partnership look like? How do you want to be relating? How will you feel?
If you have had a failed relationship (there really are no failures - but, you might not have had what you really want!) - it's time to brush up on good communication skills. I'd recommend non-violent communication as a start. It helps you truly get in touch with and express your needs and wants.
Perhaps it is time to create a new support system. Many times your friends will feel conflicted if they were friends with both you and your partner. You may want to join a support group or an existing social group in your community where you can develop new friendships.
Be sure to nurture the relationships you already have - with your parents if possible - and with your children as well.
Be sure to step out of the box. If you have not been a risk taker, it may be time to do that now. If you've taken too many risks, attempt to go it on the safer side. In other words, do something different. You know the old definition of insanity - 'doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results'.
Last but not least - find all the ways you can to enjoy your own company first - and learn to BE the Love you want to attract.
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From Dr. Toni LaMotta, Midlife Reinvention Specialist, Best-Selling Author of "What You Really Want, Wants You, International Keynote Speaker
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